Happy Endings

I love classic movies. Not necessarily the true classics, but the classics of my time--the Sandlots and My Best Friends Weddings. The ones that you could watch over and over, and just not tired of. The feeling of knowing every line and being ok it it, but yet not feeling like its too outdated because you remember when 'that' was cool. Those classics. Have you placed a few? 

Last night a few girls came over and we pondered for a while what to watch and we finally landed on Sleepless in Seattle. Now, lets clear something up. If you are with a group (especially girls) and someone has not seen a classic, it is your obligation as a friend to watch it with them. I mean, why would you forgo the opportunity to let someone special in your life miss the chance to view a masterpiece. We just couldn't do it. Elaine had never seen SIS, so we watched. In my head I'm saying the lines with Annie..."Destiny is something we've invented because we can't stand the fact that everything that happens is accidental" .... "its magic"

But here is my thing. We love happy endings. There is nothing wrong with happy endings in and of themselves, but think of the happy ending in your favorite movies. They aren't always happy. We cheer for the underdog, the girl who shouldn't get the guy, the affair to happen, the cheat. I claim not to be a movie analyzer but does it not bother anyone else that most 'happy endings' are destructive. It preaches the message 'do whatever you have to do to get what you want.' Just last night I'm watching SIS and even knowing the story, I'm wanting Annie to find Sam, and Sam to find Annie. But for that to happen, that means Annie calls off her commitment of engagement to Walter. Walter has done nothing but be faithful, but my need for a happy ending wants Annie and Sam together. Its our biggest fear to be Annie...to be settling for Walter when there is Sam out there. Yet I'm there wishing to watch it unravel.

Its why if you love My Bests Friends Wedding you've always been a little displeased with the ending. 'Juls' doesn't get Michael. Kimmie rightfully does. But we so badly want Julianne to end up with Michael. Deep down inside we want that because we are Juls. We see that its us wants to be chosen but yet at the same time we see that we deserve it not. People want the perfect guy in their life to on their wedding day say the girl in the wedding dress is not who they are in love with, but its been them all along. I mean, thats just crazy but its true. There are Julianne's out there everywhere. 

So I guess I write all this to process about happy endings. I mean, I want them too, but I hate that to get a happy ending, feel good story, it means that all of the sudden life has happened for someone else. Just a thought.